Red Flag Campaign

“Say Something”

The Red Flag Campaign will be featured on our campus in February. Research indicates that in 21% of college dating relationships, one of the partners is being abused. That’s 1 in 5 relationships.

So, if you want to know how to help a friend when it comes to dating violence, here are some ideas. When it comes to dating violence, here’s what it means to be a friend:

  • Don’t assume that it doesn’t happen on our campus. It does.
  • Don’t assume that men are always the perpetrators or women are always the victims.
  • Don’t assume that dating violence happens only in heterosexual relationships.
  • Don’t assume that just because your friend doesn’t ask for help, she or he doesn’t want or need help.
  • Don’t assume that just because you don’t see evidence of physical abuse, what is happening in your friend’s emotionally abusive relationship isn’t damaging…whether spiritually, emotionally, physically, or sexually.

Pay attention to red flags, and trust your instincts. If you see something in your friend’s relationship that makes you feel uneasy, something you can’t quite put your finger on…say something. Tell your friend what you’ve noticed, and ask if there’s anything you can do to help.

It shouldn’t take your friend physically harming his or her intimate partner and/or self before you say something.

It shouldn’t take your friend having to come to you for help before you say something.

Your responsibility as a friend…our responsibility as a community…is to ensure that students are able to reach their potential, and that patterns of healthy intimate relationships are able to take root. What we learn now about how to treat our girlfriends and boyfriends will shape our commitments in the future…to our partners, spouses, children, and families.

So, if you see a red flag in your friend’s relationship, are you going to turn away? Or are you going to say something?

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